Any blockage affects the whole. Blockage in our physical body also affects the mind and the spirit. Blockage in the mind also affects the body and the spirit. Blockage in the spirit also affects the body and the mind. We are one. We are not separate parts. Our experiences teach us to set boundaries; like blockages, boundaries are set on all levels: mental, physical and spiritual. These aspects of ourselves can’t be separated. We are one.

Boundaries, in a natural way, are a necessity. Bodily organs have boundaries. The ovals set permeable boundaries for the elements. When these normal boundaries are compressed or over expanded, pain sets in on one and all levels and new boundaries are created. These boundaries create a rigidity which restricts consciousness. We have difficulty getting past these boundaries, created by our experiences.

That’s a blockage. This kind of blockage sets a boundary in place, creating limitations. Sometimes it is a sense of self that becomes limited; almost like a new identity is created. But it is a confined sense of self; one can become blind to that part of each of us that normally creates balance and harmony within.These blockages and boundaries seems to protect us from some aspect of ourselves with which (consciously or unconsciously) we have chosen not to deal.

All of this creates a view of ourselves that is bounded and creates pain. That pain, (physical, mental, or spiritual) is why people come to us for assistance. Our role is to assist them to explore, tolerate, accept and finally let go of the block and the pain which has been induced. We often avoid getting to know our boundaries. However, this type of self-knowledge helps to change how we see ourselves. We can re-establish what we can or cannot do and what we will or will not do.

Any time we set up new boundaries, we create a narrower outlook. Our sympathetic Nervous system is behind this change. Our “fight or flight” reflex is activated when we are in danger. The circumstance creates an immediate, necessary choice to stay and fight or get out of the situation. Later, when the danger has passed, the response needs to be evaluated and analyzed. This reflection allows us to see the situation from a bit of a distance–we can re-balance ourselves without embedding a new fear response. The danger with an embedded response is that it isn’t always appropriate and can act as a new, limiting boundary. Our view of ourselves is, in part, determined by how we react in different situations. When actions are not consistent with who we truly know ourselves to be, pain results. The blockage is solidified, and the new boundaries can become permanent.

One of the best ways for me to counteract that cycle is to get into a state of peace. To do this, I need stillness (silence) which allows me to shut out a part of me that says the newly created boundary is who I really am, limiting what I’m capable of. This stillness allows my energy to rise; I become aware of the boundary and of the possibility of moving through it and closer to my actual being.

Although there is no set formula, I use the process above when friends come for sessions with me. Stillness is a way to become present to the blockages and boundaries others carry; stillness allows space for new possibilities. In session, I assist the friend’s energy to do the work necessary to open the blockages and create new ways to be in the world. While boundaries are necessary to avoid pain and hurt, if a boundary takes over and gets out of balance, pain arises. The pain can be helped with stillness, which creates a new possibility of balance and harmony for the individual. It is in this balanced, harmonious state that we know our truest self, i.e., who we really are, and who we are created to be.